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Aug 19

Workplace Discrimination and Caregiving


The following article is from the Visiting Nurse Service of New York


"If you’re a working caregiver, you may have experienced Family Responsibility Discrimination (FRD). FRD arises when employers take adverse action against employees who have caregiving responsibilities at home, whether for children, older adults, or ill or disabled family members, and it is often based on the biased assumption that caregiving duties interfere with being able to do one’s job.


A recent study by the Center for WorkLife Law found that lawsuits filed by employees with family caregiving obligations increased almost 400 percent in the past decade, a time during which the overall number of employment discrimination cases filed decreased. A small but growing number of those cases involve caring for older family members. According to the report, claims of FRD relating to eldercare involve denial of leave and retaliation for taking leave....Read more"

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    Carolyn has written The Boomer's Guide to Aging Parents, which is available in print, digital and audiobook formats. She blogs weekly at  and at, where she discusses news items and issues pertaining to aging, healthy aging, the care of elders and the concerns of adult children and caregivers. Visit for more information about topics that will help you be the best family caregiver you can be.
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