Complicated grief is when the usual responses to the death and loss do not fade over time and can impair or prevent people from leading normal lives. The characteristics of complicated grief can include the symptoms above as well as;
Anger, irritation, or episodes of rage
An inability to focus on anything but the death of a loved one
Focusing intensely on reminders of the deceased or an excessive avoidance of such reminders
Intense feelings of sadness, pain, detachment, sorrow, hopelessness, emptiness, low self-esteem, bitterness or longing for the deceased's presence
Problems accepting the reality of the death
Self-destructive behavior, such as alcohol or drug abuse
Suicidal thoughts or actions (If you're experiencing suicidal, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 to speak to a professional counselor!)
No specific amount of time defines when normal grief becomes complicated grief. Some impose a threshold of around six months, but it is perfectly normal for grievers to find the first year following a significant loss difficult as survivors experience holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and other significant milestones for the first time without their loved ones.
If you exhibit some of the characteristics of complicated grief above, then you might consider seeking help from a mental-health professional. You should also consider joining a bereavement support group in your area, particularly if one exists for people who have experienced a similar type of loss. While grief typically causes feelings of isolation, discussing your situation with others mourning similar circumstances can help you gain a different perspective on your specific responses
Cheryl Rumley, RN
Owner, Apex Health Care Services &
Aging in Place Toolkit Advisor